When the going gets tough
As a Leadership Coach, my obvious purpose is to support my clients to become better, more rounded and more authentic leaders. However, I frequently meet people who have been knocked off balance at work by an experience that has demolished their confidence. Helping them to recover their resilience is our first step.
The reasons for being off balance are many. They include bullying (which can happen to anyone, even to CEOs), stress, redundancy, badly managed change, or simply being in the wrong job or the wrong organisation. Often people limp along on three cylinders, desperately pretending that everything is alright.
Because it had happened to me, and because I can’t coach everyone, I decided to write a book for anyone who wants to get back on track. Real people who had big work challenges generously allowed me to use their stories to show readers how to get back on track and emerge stronger. The book contains a wealth of exercises and food for thought, and can also act as a resource for executive coaches.
Tips for getting Back on Track
When things are going well, work can be fun, fulfilling and rewarding. But there will be low moments, especially if working relationships are involved, when your self-esteem and confidence plummet leaving you feeling powerless and stuck.
You may take your frustration home every day, relying on loved ones to pick up the pieces. This can be very stressful and draining for them, however much they love you. The support of someone independent – a coach or mentor – can make all the difference to how you cope. They will help you find ways through without themselves getting hooked into the problem.
Here are some top tips:
- Be clear about you want to be different. Write a story or a poem, or make a collage or a list. Keep what you create and use it to keep you going.
- Understand what is happening. Write it down in detail, or talk to someone you trust.
- Review your strengths and values. What are you good at? What do you really care about? What would you never compromise? What experiences can help you?
Ask yourself what you will do differently in future to avoid being here again.
- Build a plan for going forward, based on your dreams, strengths, expertise and values. What will you do? Who can help?
Staying on track day-to-day
- Keep revisiting your plan. Check that you’re broadly on track, and adjust if you’re not.
- Celebrate your successes.
- Treat mistakes as blessings and learn from them.
- Be yourself. You’re unique.
- Understand the negative voice on your shoulder that kicks in when your confidence is low. Replace it with an encouraging ‘inner coach’.
- Take care of yourself - you’ll be in better shape to meet setbacks.
- Nurture your friendships.
Getting Back on Track - the book
In 2008, Ann Lewis published Getting Back on Track - regaining your confidence and presence at work. The book acts as a virtual coach for anyone who wants to recover and maintain their self-belief and confidence at work.
Buy your copy of Getting Back on Track from Trafford Publishing: http://www.trafford.com/07-2790
Improving Flabby Strategic Thinking and Developing Cognitive Fitness
December 14th, 2008 Posted by: Fiona Beddoes-JonesLast time we referred to two recent major global events where flabby strategic thinking had partly contributed to the situation that the world now finds itself in. So how can we start to address the problems of sloppy strategic thinking in individuals and teams? We believe that there are two key questions that you need to address. Firstly, the implicit question of “How do people think?” Not how do they feel, or how do others perceive them, or how operationally capable they are, but how DO they think? Secondly and more directly: “What IS good strategic thinking?” Or at the very least: “What does your organisation or team regard as good strategic thinking?”
Can you identify the core strengths of strategic thinking and develop them, while negating the kind of flabby thinking that is less than helpful when addressing strategic issues? We believe that you can.
In the previous article, we talked about the set of thinking skills and tools that great leaders use to win consistently. We also suggested that you and your clients can start to remove flabby thinking by developing Cognitive Fitness. Using Thinking Styles to measure individual and team thinking preferences helps you to create a personal and team intervention programme for your client based on the strengths and weaknesses of their cognitive profiles.
The next question is, therefore: “Which of these 26 are the most useful for developing ‘good’ strategic thinking?” In fact, all of these attributes have some relevance to strategic thinking (as opposed to tactical, analytical or creative thinking). But, as in all things, some are much more relevant than others.
For example, balancing an individual’s frame of reference between the External and the Internal is important, as are preferences for challenge, complexity and difference.
Totally Internally referenced people can’t listen to any form of counsel from other team members whereas very Externally referenced individuals are so busy seeking outside opinion, they never actually get anything done. Developing a balance allows individuals to learn from others’ experiences and then be able to make a decision and stick to it, sometimes in the face of strong opposition.
A preference for Difference thinking is very important for looking for different ways to achieve objectives. A preference for Complexity means that individuals are able to understand and indeed actively enjoy the complex systems, processes and behaviours that affect today’s business world and which need to be taken into account when undertaking strategic thinking. Finally, a preference for Challenging thinking means that an individual is likely to enjoy having to overcome obstacles as part of the strategic thinking process.
However, there are some styles that are likely to work against the strategic thinking process. One of the most fascinating is the potentially paralysing effect of a high preference for Options thinking. Clearly, identifying and analysing strategic options is potentially very helpful and can create new insights, but deriving and analysing too many options can lead to paralysis in decision-making brought about by information and opportunity overload.
Detailed thinking is the opposite of strategic thinking; any preference for considering the detail needs to be put aside when you are considering strategic issues. Sometimes, Logical thinkers can find themselves locked into linear and sequential ways of thinking, which creates the very box that they need to step out of in order to think strategically.
It is of course well beyond the scope of this article to go into the fine detail of the analysis and recommendation process of Thinking Styles, but having identified some of the attributes of both good and flabby strategic thinking, it becomes obvious how Thinking Styles can be used to develop more effective strategic thinking within individuals and top teams.
Having measured them and improved them, in line with the organisation’s or the broader world’s expectations, we are creating people who think well; whose mind is on the path to achieving the state we call Cognitive Fitness.
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