New Decade, New You?

January 26th, 2010 Posted by: Lauren Ward

It’s that time of year again; the decorations have gone and the glass bottles have finaly made it to the recycling bin… we are now fully emersed in the Twenty Tens! So how many of us started this year having those obligatory News Year’s Resolutions? The tradition of which dates back to the early Babylonians whose most popular resolution was to return borrowed farm equipment!

A new year is a great opportunity for us to make some positive personal changes, break a few bad habits and embrace a few new healthy ones. Yet, by the end of January we all know that for most of us, that initial spark of change has well and truly  gone out… but it’s not too late! Here are a few handy motivational tips from our friend Liggy Web at the Learning Architect:
  
In order to be really successful with regards to keeping your New Year resolutions, understanding habits and how they form is very useful.
  
Habits are at first cobwebs, and then they become cables —Spanish Proverb
 
Have you ever arrived at home or work with no memory of how you got there? When you started on your journey, you thought about the first few steps on that familiar path, but somewhere along the way, your brain moved onto more interesting topics, and the next thing you knew, you’d arrived. This is the essence of habits: once you start on a familiar series of actions, you stop thinking about them and you are able to complete them without conscious thought or attention. This can work in both a positive and negative way as it can free up our minds from dull or repetitive tasks, although it also makes it difficult to stop once we’ve started.
 
Over 90% of our daily routine is comprised of various habits that create our behaviours. What separates the positive and negative people is that the positive people have habits and behaviours that are conducive to success, while the negative people have ones that facilitate failure in their lives. Remember: you control your habits - they do not control you.
 
Your life is the culmination of all the daily behaviours that you have. You are where you are right now because of the behaviours that you have adopted in the past. It is important to identify which habits in your life lead to negative consequences and which lead to positive rewards. The difficulty in this sometimes has to do with instant gratification. If you change your habits, on occasions you’re not going to see an immediate effect. It is for this reason that people struggle with diets or can’t stop drinking, smoking, or spending money because they can’t control the instant gratification that is delivered.
 
Experts in hypnosis and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming – which is the art and science of personal excellence) believe that it takes around 21 to 28 days to form the basis of a new habit or behaviour. The time it takes to replace an old one is inconclusive because it depends entirely on the person and how long they have owned the habit. Think of behaviour as a tree. One that is fairly new is like a young tree with short roots that you can pull straight from the ground. A behaviour that you have owned for many years is like an adult tree that has long roots that extend far underground.
 
Human beings tend to take actions to either move them closer to pleasure or away from pain. With that in mind, analyse your bad habits and dig for the underlying factors involved with them. Why do you eat so much? Why do you drink so much? Our behaviour lies in reason. Changing a harmful behaviour without addressing the root cause of the problem will only lead to a regression.
 
As with any newly learned behaviour, you may well experience some internal resistance for the first week or more. This is natural and it’s not going to be easy, so you have to mentally prepare for this challenge ahead of time. After you survive this first week, you will find that your new habit and behaviour becomes easier and easier to do and soon you don’t even have to think about doing it at all.
 
Stress is the primary cause of people reverting back to their old patterns of behaviour, so be wary of the level of stress in your life and know that a high amount can wipe away a new habit and make you revert back to your old ones.
 
How to Develop Good Habits
 
✓Challenge yourself and believe that you can do it.
 
✓ Identify exactly the specific habit that you would like to change.
 
✓ Make a list of all the benefits of breaking or adopting the habit.
 
✓Set yourself up for success by taking immediate action to change.
 
✓Tell people around you what you are trying to do.
 
✓Don’t give up. Failure is only a reality when you stop trying.
 
✓Keep a record of your progress and results.
 
✓Make sure you keep it up even when you have succeeded.
 
✓Be positive and open minded about change.
 
Make that Change for 2010
 
Remember ………..
 
It is not the strongest of the species that survives, or the most intelligent, but rather the one most adaptable to change —Charles Darwin
 
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Personality and the January blues

January 5th, 2010 Posted by: Julie Mrowicki

I am not entirely sure where the last decade has gone! I can’t quite believe that we are now in the year 2010 and faced with the prospect of yet another cold, dark and somewhat depressing January.  As you can probably tell, I am not a huge fan of this month.  I love autumn and the start of the winter nights drawing in and I am also particularly partial to the run up to Christmas,  but once the bells chime at midnight on New Year’s Eve I start to feel quite melancholy.

I don’t have Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), or at least I don’t think I do.  I just struggle to get enthusiastic about New Year’s resolutions in a month where the sun only shines for a few hours, if we are lucky!  For me, October is a time for resolutions new beginnings.  Why on earth would I want to get in my car at 7pm to drive to the gym to run like a hamster on a wheel for 45 minutes when I can light the fire, pour myself a nice glass of wine and have an early night? 

I do sometimes wonder why I seem to suffer with the January blues though, as on the whole I am generally a pretty positive and upbeat person.  I have high Energy and pride myself on my “get up and go” approach to life yet January is the one thing that can knock me off my perch – or at least wobble me!  I asked some friends recently about how they felt in the New Year and responses were mixed, ranging from “It’s no different to any other time of the year” to, “I can’t stand it, and I get really miserable”.   In an ideal world I would hibernate for the whole of January and probably most of February as well!

Anyway, I would love to hear your views on the January blues.  Do they exist?   Do you feel different in January to the rest of the year?  Do personality traits have anything to do with whether people suffer with SAD or the January blues?

Wishing you all a Happy New Year and particularly, a happy January!

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It’s your fault !

September 24th, 2009 Posted by: Ian Florance

I recently interviewed a specialist in safety psychology who has worked with over 300 major companies and he saw ‘fundamental attribution error’ ( I’ll call it FAE from now on ) as central to his work. FAE is where we over-emphasise the role of individual personality in what happens ( whether a disaster or a success ) and under-emphasise the environment, processes, systems and all the other factors that can contribute. Thus, if there’s  major accident  it must be Fred or Susan’s fault ( rather than a culture which emphasised speed, terrible components or any of the other things that can cause disaster).

There’s a slightly more subtle version of this which concerns our self-attribution: how we explain failure or success when we rather than someone else is involved. Many people will ascribe success to their own brilliance and blame failure on the tools they’re asked to work with, other people, the system and processes ( sales people meeting or missing targets tend to switch between these two positions ).

It struck me that a lot of the debate about the financial melt-down is being carried out in these terms: there’s a disaster so it must be ‘those people’s’ fault, while ‘those people’ are pointing out some other factors had a role to play. At its worst this results in an extremely unhelpful stand-off between personal abuse and a sense that none of us have any effect on complex markets and organisations. The demonisation of senior banking staff perversely strengthens the ‘hero’ model of leadership: ‘these people’ are so powerful that when they get it wrong the world trembles. The ‘hero’ model of leadership is as much influenced by society at large as any other piece of social theorising: it’s an 80s model and is long past its sell-by date though recent debates about party leadership in the election lead up are depressingly carried out in  its language.

I’d be the last person to underplay personal factors in life. The five factor model is particularly robust in explaining why things happen. Norman Buckley’s post on self-deception raises a point I’ve often observed ( Introvert / Emotionals  often get overlooked in their often taken-up role as internal consultants, but can temper the over enthusiasms of other personality types ). But you can over-explain situations - and get them wrong - relying just on personality explanations. They’re intrinsically attractive: more so than, say, ability descriptions ( ‘ This person simply has too little reasoning ability to do the job’) or the onerous, uncomfortable business of trying to change a major product, a whole system or the way a workforce is managed.

But, because of this, there is a danger that personality talk gets separated out from its real work and organisational context and is over-relied on. Recent research shows that modern personality tests are increasingly practical tools in organisations. But there’s a real task to connect their results up to other sorts of organisational and social analysis. This suggests that the old consultancy divide between individual development and organisational development needs junking. They’re two aspects of the same thing.

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Email etiquette

August 26th, 2009 Posted by: Julie Mrowicki

I don’t know about you but I have unusual sleep patterns. In fact, I cannot remember the last time I was in bed by 10pm and had a full eight hours.  Quite often I feel at my best and most alert at 4 or 5 am and find myself producing my best work then to.  For me, there is something quite special about those few hours first thing in the morning before the rest of the world is awake. 

Why then, do I feel that I need to hide my early morning starts from my working life?  I have a fear that if I send someone an email at 4.23am then it may be seen as unprofessional, bordering on insane.  So, I quite often find myself typing away in these early hours and saving my emails to draft ready to press send at what I deem to be a more acceptable time of day, i.e. from 8.30 onwards.  I have been known to send the occasional email before 8am but if I am honest, only to someone who I know really well!

We live in a society where depending on where you live, you can shop at 3am and drink in pubs around the clock, yet it is frowned upon to send work emails after 8.00pm and before 8.00am.  Or is it?  Maybe it is just my own perception?  As a culture we are bound by the 9 to 5, Monday to Friday working life although I cannot help but feel that the introduction of  flexible working hours in many organisations and the emphasis on work life balance, are slowly changing the look of the 9 to 5 working life.  It may however, be quite some time before I feel comfortable sending an email at 4.23am!

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Differences in dress code

August 19th, 2009 Posted by: Julie Mrowicki

I read an article last weekend about dress code in the workplace and selecting on the basis of difference and wanted to share my own experience of wearing the wrong clothes.    http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/8187689.stm

My first particularly gruelling experience of dressing inappropriately was at the tender age of 19 and was only my second job interview ever.  I was a “first jobber” with good A levels results and had managed to get myself an interview for an admin position in an investment bank in the Docklands.  When I turned up in a bright turquoise jacket and turquoise flowery skirt, soaked from head to toe, (it had been raining heavily and I didn’t have an umbrella) no one had told me about appropriate interview dress.  I thought that I had done well to wear a nice jacket and smart skirt.  Admittedly, the soaked through look didn’t help but by that point it was too late.  The interview itself seemed to go very well although the two girls interviewing me were wearing black fitted skirt suits and crisp white shirts and I did feel a little out of place!   Anyway, needless to say I didn’t get the job and after feedback from my recruitment consultant, I went straight out and bought a navy interview suit and promptly secured my first job in the City.

As a naive “first jobber” doing the interview rounds, I was shocked at how shallow these people were.  I was still a bright school leaver with good “A” level results and a host of skills waiting to be tapped into.  I still had the same personality and I was smartly dressed (if a little damp and flowery).  I realised very early on in my working life that image is more important than anything else.  If you have two candidates who present equally well on paper and have identical qualifications for the job, it can be a hard lesson to learn that the dark interview suit will get the job over the flowery skirt and bright coloured jacket.  Or do they?

It could be that I also support difference when recruiting as I tend to be drawn towards the bright flowers rather than the plain suits.  I looked nothing like the two “suits” that interviewed me and I didn’t get the job. However, if I had to choose then I would go for the flower over the suit every time, which ironically makes me the same as everyone else -  I too prefer people who are more like me. Maybe I just see myself as more of a flower than a suit?!

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A little self deception makes the world go round.

August 3rd, 2009 Posted by: Norman Buckley

Ross Gittins is a columnist with the Sydney Morning Herald. I find he often makes a lot of sense. On June 8, 2009 he wrote an article talking about the effect of personality on markets. He cites research by Bruno Frey in Zurich that suggests that happiness is often based on “unrealistic optimism and unrealistic perceptions of control”. People with these traits are better able to adjust to difficult situations often by just ignoring evidence that is contrary to their view. Sound familiar? It will to anybody who’s ever put together a business plan or maybe even those who’ve applied for a mortgage that’s a bit bigger than they can manage.
In fact most of the advances in a capitalist market system are based on somebody’s unrealistic expectations. Such people are optimistic, have high self-esteem, welcome change and are enthusiastic. And the usual culprits are the Extraverts with low Emotionality. Go into the Mergers and Acquisitions specialists. They are full of people like this. They can always see (and explain with conviction) that merging Company A with Company B is the most obviously brilliant idea in a century. Can’t go wrong! Look at the synergies!
So how come so many mergers fail? They hardly ever deliver what was promised and in many cases the organisations would have delivered higher returns had the companies been left separate. Run a Google search for it – it makes interesting reading. And keep it in mind the next time you have a brainwave. Are your projections sensible or are they underpinned by a large chunk of wishful thinking? If you’re an Introvert with a healthy chunk of Emotionality then you might be more worth listening to than the super confident Extravert. Trouble is – he tells it and sells it better!

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